I was recently congratulating a friend when he and his wife were welcoming their new baby boy into this world. As we were talking, he was telling me about the natural birth process how he would never want to go through it, and how much more respect he had for his wife. After that conversation, I started reflecting on what all moms have to go through during natural childbirth. I was thinking about the fact when a woman is giving birth to a child naturally, there’s obviously a lot of pain. I haven’t or can’t experience it, only a woman can. In the beginning, it’s that pain they want to avoid; however, they have to push through it. But then, when that little baby is born, that pain turns into love. When they hold that baby against the warmth of their chest and realize that they just delivered a child into the world. All that previous pain turns into pure love.
As I started thinking more, I thought of this as a metaphor for life, adversity, and pushing through pain to deliver growth. The pain we attempt to avoid becomes the love we want to embrace.
Say you’re going through an adversity in an organization, and you’re having challenges with your team. You’re having challenges with account receivables. You’re going through a challenge in life. Maybe you lost a loved one, whatever it may be, it’s extremely emotionally painful. You want to avoid it. Who wants to wake up in the morning, feel that agony, adversity, and pain? But yet, as we step up and go through whatever process we need to go through to get to the other side where one day we look back at it and say, wow, that molded me to be the person I am today. So that pain becomes a love that you embrace, that you can leverage to move forward, to be better for yourself, for those close to you, for your team, your clients, and your community. I really looked at it as a metaphor for life, because I believe we attempt to avoid the pain.
Athletes as go through their journey of becoming pro athletes, there’s a lot of pain, and a lot of sacrifices they have to go through to get to the grand stage. Those two-a-days, those workouts, getting up at four o’clock in the morning when everybody else is sleeping. All they’re doing is training. An Olympian, for two years, all they’re doing is training when everyone else is having a good time. You can read and hear some of the stories about the sacrifices they went through. That pain turned into love because now they’re pros, they won the gold medals. They get the awards, the accolades, the money, and what they hated, they now love.
A few weeks back I talked about using your adversity to get better while pulling it from your personal inventory to shine on moving forward to get stronger. I encourage you, don’t avoid the pain. Embrace it. Because that pain one day as you get through it will become your most prized possession. Trust me, that will serve you and everyone else around you moving forward.
Something to think about as you’re getting ready for 2023, as you venture out into a new world of how you want to step up and make 2023 your best year ever. Think about this. Take whatever pain you’ve had in the past. Embrace it. Leverage it to move forward to be better next year than you were this year.
COACH MICHAEL DILL is an Award-Winning Certified Business Coach, global speaker, and published author. He is a proud Action Coach Franchise partner as well as the President of Power & Ice Wealth Creation a strategic leadership company that works with business owners, leaders, teams, and entrepreneurs to both develop a systematized and structured organization while accelerating their mindset, efficiencies, and effectiveness to grow both personally and professionally to achieve extraordinary results. He brings more than 40 years of business and entrepreneurial experience in his leadership, team training, and mentoring practice. Businesscoachmichaeldill.com