Doubt vs Confidence4 min read

I’d like to share a little bit about what it takes to achieve success. The subject I am about to share is extremely important. Success is all about the words we use. You have to understand the words we use dictate our thoughts, dictate our actions, and dictate our results. 

Let me explain. There are certain words that reflect doubt. Words like tryifshouldbut, are all doubt words. If any of you are using those words in a conversation, you’re unconsciously sabotaging your success and you don’t even know it.  

Let’s take the word try. Let me ask you a question. If you were to ask me, “Coach, could you come in and align my team?” And I say to you, “I’ll try.” What kind of confidence is that going to give you? Probably not a lot of confidence. You’re going to really doubt whether it’s a good decision to invest and have me come in. 

Versus you ask, “Hey coach, could you come and align my team?” My reply is; “No doubt. We’ll get it done.” That’s confidence. That’s what people buy; they buy confidence. 

Understand, that we have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. Our conscious mind has the filter. It’s filtering through everything that’s being said. That’s about 5% – 10% of our thinking. The subconscious mind has no filter. It’s absorbing everything that’s thought and spoke. It counts for 90% – 95% of our thinking.  

So, if you’re in a conversation using the word try, you are first telling yourself that you’re not sure if you’re going to get the job done. You then transfer that energy of doubt out there in your conversations. The person you’re speaking to is not converting into a high-paying client because they’re not sure if you can get it done or not. And, you’re trying to figure out why they are not converting. Hmm, something to think about. 

Let’s take another word, if. If we get to the next level. If we hit that number. No, when we get to the next level. When we hit that number. The difference in one word takes it from doubt to putting a timeline and making it happen. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. You have to be really conscious of the words you’re using because you want to transfer the energy of confidence versus the energy of doubt. 

Another word is as, instead of ifAs I’m becoming a better leader, instead of if I become a better leader. As we create this empowered team, versus if we create this empowered team. Same sentence, one change, one word creates confidence, one word creates doubt. 

Zig Ziglar would say the most important conversation you have is the conversation you have with yourself. Remember, any time you’re speaking to anybody, there are two people listening. It’s the person you’re speaking to, and it’s your own subconscious mind picking up the words that you’re speaking. Those words present whether you’re confident and going to get the job done, or if you’re unsure if you’re going to get the job done. 

These are just a few of the words to think of. Become really conscious of what words you’re throwing out there. When you’re walking around saying words like tryifshould, and but all the time, you don’t even know how it’s sabotaging your potential success. 

The first key is to be clear, be conscious, listen to what you’re saying, take the doubt words out, put the confident words in, and I guarantee you, your business will go to the next level. 

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to be sharing words with you so you can shift your distinction and perception to get those words working for you, versus working against you. 

COACH MICHAEL DILL is an Award-Winning Certified Business Coach, professional speaker, and trainer. He is a proud ActionCOACH Business Coaching Franchise partner and the President of Power & Ice Wealth Creation a strategic leadership company that works with business owners, leaders, teams, and entrepreneurs to both develop a systematized and structured organization while accelerating their mindset, efficiencies, and effectiveness to grow both personally and professionally to achieve extraordinary results. He brings more than 40 years of business and entrepreneurial experience in his leadership, team training, and mentoring practice.